Updated: Apr 4
I consider myself a sex worker. That I don't get paid as one, is not that relevant. The rewards might not come as direct financial transactions but they do come in equally important for me ways. I'm a sex worker. A proud one and a good one too. And, like many other sex workers, I'm in this trade because it feels as I was born to do this: I have endless love inside me, my favourite things in life are snuggling, kissing and spooning, and as far back as I can remember, I've always been a massive slut, with a constant desire to connect deeply with others. I provide sex-work sessions to people - on stage, and off it. And as sexuality doesn't have to involve genitals, my sex work doesn't have to either - it can be just a cuddle, a rope play, eye contact or a spanking sequence. And that's not saying that genitals never get involve. They do, when they must; of course they do.
My models on Saturdays are always unpaid volunteer guests. I regard this to be an important information towards understanding the work of my Kitkat residency, by looking the motivation behind my models' decision to keep coming back and modeling on a tiny stage in a club for me. A common misconception is that my models are there for the mass attention, the glory and the status. I give these reasons a 10% over the motives (status my ass anyway). Another 10% potentially goes to their desire to support me, and my artistic work. The rest 80% of their motives are based on one reason and one only: the level and the quality of the sex work they receive by me. I try to not allow it to be less than 80%. I use my instinct and I filter people out - one of the skills I picked up on the way.
Knowing these motives, my audience is invited to observe all the levels and forms of the sex work I provide. They are invited to observe and learn. I don't work with egos, I avoid them as hell. I work with empathy, affection and energies. The skills I employ to maintain my long durational stage sessions, have less to do with knots and ropes and more with actual sex work. Ultimately, the time comes that I become a dedicated servant for these people, I submit unconditionally, I become their whore. And one thing I've mastered the last two years is how to transition between all my roles on a tasteful and fast manner - from the dominant creator to a submissive whore, and everything in between. This way I'm able to orchestrate the overall equality of power in the piece; equality between gender, sexes, tops and bottoms.